I am doing a lot of public speaking these days. Turns out, I kind of love it. Here are some videos of recent talks that I’m proud of. If you want me to speak at an event that you’re having, just ask. I’m generally flexible in terms of tone, fees, travel and all that. If we can make it work, I’ll probably do it. But don’t be afraid to ask, really. I’m a “yes girl” at heart.
TEDx Rainier: Sexual Shame. An 11-minute talk about the roots and impacts of sexual shame and why, as a society, it is not okay for us to hurt each other. Sex is natural, fun, and has been around longer than the written word. This talk is PG-13. There is nothing gross, shocking or graphic in it, but it does mention the occasional kink in passing.
IGNITE! 16: Pleasure Prohibition A 5-minute talk about the history and future of vibrators in the US. Including a look at the states that currently do, or are currently working to, ban vibrators. Yup. Prohibition. Prohibition that tells you how you are allowed to sexually gratify yourself. Hint: Get a doctor’s note! Also PG-13. (Pardon the clumsisness, the Ignite! format is fun, but totally foreign to me. Auto advancing of a set number of slides, and I’m more of a “go with the flow girl.” But it was fun, I want to do it again!)
SlutWalk Seattle:An 11 minute talk about slut-shaming and redefining rape. As a rape-survivor, this powerful rally speech focuses on the fact that only the rapist is to blame for rape, and that women should be allowed to be who we want to be without fearing assault and blame. After all, would you blame a building if an arsonist torched it?
SEX IS BACK: Sex Is Back is a huge project of The Pleasure chest, in which they interviewed experts about all manner of human sexuality. It was such an honor to be part of this project, much fun indeed! All three of these videos are quite short, and obviously not safe for work.
It’s easy to think you’re too busy for intimacy, but that would be a mistake, and there are plenty of clever ways to get your needs met.
Sure, they’re great, but orgasms really are not the point of sex. There’s much more to great sex than orgasm.
Sometimes you don’t know what your kinks are, or aren’t, until you try them.
The Burning Man Ticket Fiasco: This isn’t my usual beat, but it was fun to play pundit on National TV when Burning Man looked like it might have blown itself up. This was the result of a blog post that I wrote going insanely viral, but creating a lot of productive dialog. I think I like TV punditry, now that I understand how it really works. But I’d rather, you know, talk about sexuality as a human right.
If you want me to speak for your organization, or write a piece for you, contact me.
* For what it’s worth, my 15 year-old daughter has seen all of my public speaking events, and reads most of my writing. I feel comfortable that what I speak about, and how I do it, is generally appropriate for all audiences. That said, I can customize anything.